“It’s hopeless.” If you are or have been the target of a domestic abuser or if you have a friend who is, then you have probably said this very thing. “There is no hope. She has no possible way that anyone can think of to get herself and her children away from this evil.” I have certainly thought this more than once after hearing a victim’s story.
- No economic resources (due to his financial abuse)
- No extended family to help her (he has allied them to his side)
- No marketable job skills after decades of giving her life to him
- No church that will support her in a divorce
- No justice in the legal system (sometimes there is, often there is not)
- No assurance that she will have full custody of the children
You just have to keep checking off “no” as you survey the landscape for an escape route. It looks hopeless. It is not a sin to say it. The thing does appear to be devoid of any hope. And the fact is, humanly speaking, it is.