For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. (Proverbs 6:34)
Jealousy can have a positive connotation – after all, The Lord Himself is a jealous God. Jealous for His people and jealous for the glory that belongs to Him alone. There is this kind of good jealousy to be found in humans sometimes – when they are jealous for the glory of God for example.
But jealousy as a sin is one of the most destructive of all evils. There was this kind of jealousy in Cain when he murdered Abel. And we see it in King Saul when he heard the crowds praising David for slaying his 10,000’s. Saul’s friendship with David was turned to murderous hatred by his envy.
This same kind of wicked jealousy is to be seen in the RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist). It will turn a Hobbit into a Gollum (my precious!!!). Some of you have no doubt seen this dark transformation. Someone who once seemed to be a great friend, in the end, hated you and wanted to destroy you. So often, jealousy is a root cause for this.
In the church, I have seen this very thing play itself out. At first here was a man who for all appearances was a zealous Christian – but over time, “zealous” turned to “jealous.” Why? Because covetousness was lying rather dormant in such a person’s heart, not evidencing itself overtly. And then, as time passed, perhaps you enjoyed some successes, some blessings from the Lord. This might have been in your ministry for the Lord in His church or it may have been a promotion at work. What happened to that “friend?” Jealousy sprang up alive seeing that you were receiving something they wanted.
When someone is consumed with jealousy, they characteristically begin to accuse you of “leaving them out” or “keeping all the credit” for yourself. These are projections of the RASN’s own sin of course. But very soon the fruit of jealousy always appears – hatred. Like Saul who through a spear at David to kill him, the RASN starts launching his spears as well.
Now, as this metamorphosis happens, the probability is that you do not even see it until the thing just explodes. You are left wondering -“what in the world happened here? I don’t even recognize this person anymore.” Well, the explanation is jealousy. The RASN sees what you have and demands to have it. Instead of rejoicing that the Lord has blessed you (and if in connection with the church, He has blessed all the members), the RASN gnashes his teeth.
The Pharisees went out and immediately held counsel with the Herodians against him, how to destroy him. (Mark 3:6)
RASN’s, like the Pharisees, are jealous for their own glory and they hate anyone who appears to be enjoying the success they crave. And thus they become fools. RASNs are fools. They destroy the best people around them.