RASNs are Never Wrong – Even if They sink the Boat

If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar and His word is not in us. (1Jn 1:10)

RASNs (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) are not Christians. How do we know? Because they never confess their sin. They are never wrong. Never. Just ask them. And therefore, as John says, they call God a liar. They are not born again. This is a very important point which abuse victims need to understand if they are going to start on the path to freedom. The denial of this truth is typical in “biblical counseling” and churches where the victims of RASNs are told that because the RASN claims to be a Christian, it is “unchristian” of us to doubt it.

I saw a perfect example of this business a number of years ago. I took a man from our church (he left us long ago when he could no longer hear truth) out in my boat at the entrance to the ocean. I asked him if he would like to steer it for awhile and he did so. Quite soon, he decided to navigate to the opposite side of the channel between the jetties. He didn’t ask. He just did it. Soon we were out of the navigation channel and into much shallower water where jagged rocks lay just under the surface. He clipped one of them and I told him to get back over into the channel. His response? “Do you think I was born yesterday?”

Well, later as we were heading in he was steering again (don’t let a RASN steer you in any way!) and he once again veered off the entrance channel into a very shallow area. I told him he needed to stay to the other side. His response? “Then you take it!” And he walked away from the helm.

A RASN not only cannot admit fault when it comes to steering a boat, they will never admit their sin. Any “confession” on their part (which is rare) is just a sham, a fake designed to deceive. It would be a number of years before I learned just what this man was. He wasn’t simply a stubborn, bull-headed guy. No. He was a self-centered, bullying, false Christian who wouldn’t even listen to God’s own Word.

A couple of years later he came up to me after I had taught a Bible study and blurted out, “I don’t care what you say. My mother is in heaven. I saw her pray one time.” I had said nothing about his mother. I never met or knew her. But it was the truth of God’s Word that he hated. Soon after he took himself and his wife out of our church. Now he knows. But its too late. Too late.

We dismiss, far too often, RASNs as being simply “difficult people.” That is letting them off too easy. Classing them like that is just an excuse to cling to the false notion that just about everyone who says they are in Christ, are. The truth is this – the way is narrow and few are they who find it. A person who says they love God but they hate their brother is a liar. No, this fake and stupid boat navigator was what the Lord calls a fool. He was an arrogant, abusive, narcissistic man who, for many years, had been excused by the previous pastors of our church who compromised God’s Word so as to broaden the narrow way for the likes of this guy.