Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church*
by Ps Jeff Crippen

Here is a link to a review by Persis Lorenti at The Aquila Report

A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church* 
by Ps Jeff Crippen

Here is a link to a review of this book by Ps Dave Orrison

Additional Books (in alphabetical order)

Dead by Sunset*
by Ann Rule

A “true-crime” story about real-life abuse by a psychopathic man named Bradley Morris Cunningham who murdered his wife.  Free of any restraints of conscience, Cunningham devastated the lives of intelligent, talented women and just about everyone else around him.  His ability to deceive and manipulate was incredible.

Divorce and Remarriage in the Church:  Biblical Solutions for Pastoral Realities*
by David Instone-Brewer  – written for the average lay Christian

No one is competent to interpret Jesus’ teaching in the Gospels on marriage and divorce until they have carefully read and assimilated what Instone-Brewer has discovered in his study of rabbinics.  His book is very, very freeing to abuse victims and serves to silence all the amateur juries in the churches that are adding to the victim’s suffering.

Fool Proofing Your Life:  How to Deal Effectively with the Impossible People in Your Life*
by Jan Silvious

Building upon the Book of Proverbs in the Bible, Silvious teaches us that abusers (fools) are not your normal brand of sinner and cannot be handled with typical methods we might use for dealing with other people. Caveat: This author says abuse is not grounds for divorce. We disagree with that, but find other useful things in the book.

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People*
by Dr. George Simon

Dr. Simon has studied and worked with manipulators and other disturbed characters and their victims for over 30 years.  In this book Simon explains that manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it. He goes on to describe manipulators’ mentality and tactics and shows victims how to identify and respond to these abusers.

How He Gets Into Her Head:  The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser*
by Don Hennessy

This book uncovers the layers of covert tactics which men employ to establish and maintain control over their intimate partner.  By deepening our understanding of what is truly going on the author suggests that we can develop a more efficient and consistent response to the issue.

Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control* 
by Don Hennessy

In this easy-to-read guide, best-selling author Don Hennessy offers advice to all those dealing with violent or controlling behavior in their own lives, based on his experience of dealing with hundreds of such people in a therapeutic setting. Most important, he explains to the reader how they can throw off the shackles and live lives free from fear and intimidation. (If I could recommend only one book to victims to help in their recovery it would be this one. twbtc)

The Sociopath Next Door*
by Martha Stout

Conscienceless people are far more numerous than we realize and Stout helps us learn to recognize their mentality and tactics and how we must deal with them.

Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence — From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror*
by Judith Herman M.D.

The author draws on her own cutting-edge research in domestic violence as well as on the vast literature of combat veterans and victims of political terror, to show the parallels between private terrors such as rape and public traumas such as terrorism. The book puts individual experience in a broader political frame, arguing that psychological trauma can be understood only in a social context.  Meticulously documented and frequently using the victims’ own words as well as those from classic literary works and prison diaries, Trauma and Recovery is a powerful work that continues to profoundly impact our thinking.

Without Conscience:  The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us*
by Robert D Hare

The author vividly describes a world of con artists, hustlers, rapists, and other predators who charm, lie, and manipulate their way through life. Are psychopaths mad, or simply bad? How can they be recognized? And how can we protect ourselves? This book provides solid information and surprising insights into psychopaths.


Domestic Violence and Abuser Series by Pastor Jeff Crippen (link to sermon series on sermon

This sermon series is also posted on this website as a weekly Sunday post.  This is a link to the first sermon in the series. 

Originally titled “The Psychology and Methods of Sin” this is a 21-sermon series by Jeff Crippen dealing with the mentality and tactics of evil.


*Unholy Charade is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for website owners to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to and affiliated sites. See additional information here.



8 thoughts on “Resources

  1. Alisa

    I am reading your book “Unholy Charade”. It is powerful! My husband is best described as a covert narcissist. He hasn’t crossed the line to physical abuse.


    1. Jeff Crippen

      Yes. Christ Reformation Church is where to donate and we are a non profit. 7450 Alderbrook Rd, Tillamook, Or 97141 or see the info on the blog homepage on how to donate via paypal. Thankyou!


  2. Andy

    Do you have the list of resources that you do NOT recommend? It was on the previous blog and I wanted to check if a name/book was on it, but cannot find it now.


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