Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Abusers Expose Themselves: Some Early Warning Signs to Watch for

This post is written mostly from personal experience. It addresses a topic that generally leads me to start talking to myself:  “Jeff, how could you have been so stupid? Why didn’t you realize what that person was a long, long time ago?” You know that kind of self-talk I bet.…

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Right Back at Ya! The Abuser’s Tactic of Reflective Blaming

Recently I had a refresher course in abuser tactics. Not in a classroom, but in real life. I need these reminders to help me continue to learn how to put into practice what I have learned about abuse. Necessary, because we all so easily revert to our old errors we…

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Wising Up to the Abuser's "Christian" Facade

2Th 3:1-2  Finally, brothers, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may speed ahead and be honored, as happened among you, and that we may be delivered from wicked and evil men. For not all have faith. Wicked and evil men. We need to be delivered from them.…

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How many Sins Are Required to Demonstrate that a "Christian" is not a Christian?

How can you know if a person who claims to be a Christian, isn’t? Does it take years of watching and testing and waiting? Nope. Not at all. Here you go: Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness. Whoever loves his brother…

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The Haughty Evil of the Wicked and Their Just End

There are those who are clean in their own eyes but are not washed of their filth. There are those–how lofty are their eyes, how high their eyelids lift! There are those whose teeth are swords, whose fangs are knives, to devour the poor from off the earth, the needy…

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Let's Think Some More about What it Means to Have no Conscience

Blessed is the man against whom the LORD counts no iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit. For when I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was dried up as…

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Focus-Shifting: It's The Tool of Blame-Shifting

2 Corinthians 10:10 ESV  For they say, “His letters are weighty and strong, but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech of no account.” The real issue at Corinth was the truth of the gospel and the false gospel wicked "apostles" were introducing. They hated Paul and they hated…

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The Abuser is a User: an Ab – User

Galatians 4:17 ESV  They make much of you, but for no good purpose. They want to shut you out, that you may make much of them. This morning I was thinking about how, over the years, wicked people have used me. And the thought struck me that "abuser" is a…

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Rudeness as a Sign of Evil

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 ESV  Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant  (5)  or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; Do you see that little phrase here - "or rude"?  The very next quality…

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This New Book on Domestic Abuse in the Church Looks Good…but…it isn't

1 Thessalonians 4:9 ESV  Now concerning brotherly love you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another, Hebrews 10:16 ESV  “This is the covenant that I will make with them after those days, declares the Lord: I…

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