Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Category: Victims

How Likely is it that it is ALWAYS your fault?

1Ki 18:17 When Ahab saw Elijah, Ahab said to him, “Is it you, you troubler of Israel?” I have written on this subject before, but as is really always true - repetition is very important. You know by now that RASN's (Revilers, Abusers, Sociopaths, Narcissists) never own their sin. They…

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Tender-hearted, Forgiving, Believing the Best

Eph 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.Col 3:12-14 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, (13) bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each…

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“I Have Always been a Christian”

Dan 9:18 O my God, incline your ear and hear. Open your eyes and see our desolations, and the city that is called by your name. For we do not present our pleas before you because of our righteousness, but because of your great mercy. I you were to be…

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Being Abused does not Justify Abusing

Rom 12:17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.1Th 5:15 See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.1Pe 3:9 Do not repay evil for evil…

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I Have Married three Abusers — Am I stupid?

The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are…

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When Anger is Godly

As we write about abuse, as we speak about it and give counsel to abuse victims, the subject and question of ANGER frequently comes up. It arises in various ways: Victims who are Christians are conflicted because they are angry, yet they think that it is a sin to be…

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Nets, Fish, and the New Creation

John 21:1-11 After this Jesus revealed himself again to the disciples by the Sea of Tiberias, and he revealed himself in this way. (2) Simon Peter, Thomas (called the Twin), Nathanael of Cana in Galilee, the sons of Zebedee, and two others of his disciples were together. (3) Simon Peter…

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How Many Times Should Abuse be Tolerated?

I recently heard a speaker in a DVD series on domestic abuse say that abuse should not be tolerated "more than one time."  This poses a good question. Let’s limit a hypothetical example to physical abuse just for our purposes here. [You all know I trust that domestic abusers do…

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Abuse and Hope: The Bride of Christ as Remnant and Ants

1 Kings 19:9-10 ESV There he came to a cave and lodged in it. And behold, the word of the LORD came to him, and he said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” (10)  He said, “I have been very jealous for the LORD, the God of hosts.…

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