1Ki 18:17 When Ahab saw Elijah, Ahab said to him, “Is it you, you troubler of Israel?”
I have written on this subject before, but as is really always true – repetition is very important. You know by now that RASN’s (Revilers, Abusers, Sociopaths, Narcissists) never own their sin. They always accuse and blame their target – YOU. It’s always your fault. That is why it is pretty common to hear abuse victims say “I’m sorry” in an almost automatic manner. They have been trained by these servants of the devil (who himself is “the accuser of the brethren”) to assume they are the problem.
Wicked king Ahab pulled this on Elijah, but the Prophet wasn’t going to have it-
1Ki 18:18 And he answered, “I have not troubled Israel, but you have, and your father’s house, because you have abandoned the commandments of the LORD and followed the Baals.
Have you ever considered this – just how likely is it that you are always the one who sinned, erred, blew it…. ? Always? Really? You never do anything right. You always sin. Your response is always wrong. I think a bit of thought on this will certainly lead us to the obvious answer – “It isn’t likely at all.” It isn’t likely that the economic problems are your fault because you always spend too much. It isn’t likely that the children are showing signs of trauma only because you are a bad mother. The probability that the car always breaks down because you didn’t check the tire pressure or you didn’t change the oil, or you ignored a trouble light, or…..
We all sin. We all mess up. Sometimes things go amiss because we just had too much on our plate to prevent them. And being the target of a RASN certainly adds a whole LOT to our plate.
Don’t be too quick to wear the blame and shame. As they say, even a stopped clock is right twice each day! And the typical RASN, in contrast, is wrong a whole bunch more that twice per day. RASN’s are fools. They fancy themselves to be wise and perfect (just ask them), but that is a delusion of their own making. They err with virtually every thought and action because their arrogance and quest for power taints everything about them, so that the probability of a RASN always being wrong is extremely high.