Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Preaching Perseverance and Patience to Abuse Victims? Time to get a Clue!

Many thanks to No One Down Here for this powerful comment. I decided to make it a stand alone post to be sure everyone was able to see it.  She wrote this in response to the artwork strip done for us published on Nov 4th.  Pastors, church leaders, "biblical" counselors,…

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Stephanie's Story – Part 4 (Communiques from the Devil) **

Here are some of the typical emails and letters that were sent to Stephanie by her (now ex) pastor. This is the very kind of thing that is laid upon victims by their churches. I will just post a few here and more in a subsequent post, including the formal…

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Patience? Really?

Many thanks to @daughterofnarcissus for this artwork. She drew it after reading our post at Light for Dark Times on unbiblical forbearance which is so often laid upon victims of abuse. As the first frame indicates, so many people here have been targeted by an abuser for decades. And yet,…

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Some Truth from a Survivor

This was written by IAmMyBeloveds, a survivor who was even ex-communicated from her Presbyterian conservative church because she refused to "reconcile" and submit to her abuser of many, many years. Now who on earth would expect a woman/wife being abused by her spouse verbally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially,…

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I don't talk to Abusers

Gen 3:1  Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” Over the years in this ministry to abuse victims, I…

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We are to Separate From Evil, Not Order the Righteous to Live With it

Psa 1:1-2  Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers;  (2)  but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. Pro…

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Until YOU Have Been the Target….

2Ti 4:14-15  Alexander the coppersmith did me great harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds.  (15)  Beware of him yourself, for he strongly opposed our message. I wonder if Timothy believed Paul's warning? I hope that he did. I suspect that he did. But if so, Timothy…

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Local Churches are Arrogantly Co-Dependent on the Wicked

1Co 5:1-2  It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father's wife.  (2)  And you are arrogant! Ought you not rather to mourn? Let him who has done this be removed…

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If You Haven't Read David Instone-Brewer's book, You Really Should

Here are some powerful and refreshing words from David Instone-Brewer's book on marriage and divorce in the church. This will make you want to get your hands on the book for sure. And by the way - ANY pastor or counselor or Christian who fancies that they are competent to…

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Want to Get Clarity? Read David Instone-Brewer's Book

Only the Lord really knows the heart; as Jesus said, evil comes from within and loves the dark. We cannot leave it up to a minister or a church leadership team to decide when a marriage ends; it is up to the individual victim, in prayer before the Lord. Only…

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