Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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If the Victim had Just Kept Quiet, All Would be Well….?

Scott Allen Johnson wrote the first book that I ever read about abusers (domestic and/or sexual). It opened my eyes to what had been happening to me as a pastor for over 20 years at the hands of power and control seekers, spiritual abusers, all of whom used their wicked…

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Ephesians 5:11 and Exposing Evil – A Real Case

Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible  (Eph 5:11-13) Jesus exposed evil. The Light of the World does…

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If They Didn't Really Know Him – How can they say he repented?

2 Timothy 4:14-15  Alexander the coppersmith did me great harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds.  (15)  Beware of him yourself, for he strongly opposed our message. The Apostle Paul was wise about evil. Notice that in this warning to Timothy, Paul does not make any excuses…

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"He has Really Changed – You Need to go Talk to Him"

Romans 8:16  The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, I know what it feels like. To have someone come up to you and tell you how much your abuser has changed for the good. After years of evil treatment at his hands, you…

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Excellent Thoughts from My Friends

In the last couple of weeks I have received some comments from a few friends who all have survived wicked abuse. I decided what they said is too valuable to keep to myself, so here they are for all of you. They don't address one specific tactic or subject, but…

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Sometimes it is the Christian's Duty to Flee From Danger

Matthew 24:16-18  then let those who are in Judea flee to the mountains.  (17)  Let the one who is on the housetop not go down to take what is in his house,  (18)  and let the one who is in the field not turn back to take his cloak. These…

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**Another Look at the Abuser as Reviler

How long, O God, is the foe to scoff? Is the enemy to revile your name forever (Psalms 74:10) “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. (Matthew 5:11) But now I am writing to you not…

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**A Sure Sign of a Bully or Abuser: the Gnashing of Teeth

Now when they heard these things they were enraged, and they ground their teeth at him. (Acts 7:54) Recently I was reminded still once more of how the wicked react when their evil is exposed and they are called to account. The fangs come out. The bullying begins. They are…

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**Most of You Have Seen Letters Like this

The following is a transcription of a hand-written letter received by one of our blog followers, an abuse survivor. Abused by her abuser and, so typical, by her church as well. The letter was anonymous except of course to claim it is from a fellow Christian "who loves" the victim…

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**My experience with abuser-enabling misogyny in the church

To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (Genesis 3:16) So you will be delivered from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth…

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