In the last couple of weeks I have received some comments from a few friends who all have survived wicked abuse. I decided what they said is too valuable to keep to myself, so here they are for all of you. They don’t address one specific tactic or subject, but here they are all in one place:
- These abusers break down your walls. You lose confidence in your ability to make a decision to the point you don’t believe you have the right to protect yourself anymore.
- The counsel I got and which most all abuse victims are getting from these so called pastors is full of legalism dressed in grace and void of wisdom. That’s a confusing concoction when taken in. Lies are powerful, especially lies dressed as Biblical truth.
- Pastor Jeff, as you’ve said, I’ve been more and more persuaded that most people in churches aren’t truly saved and the shepherds are hirelings. I’ve been thinking about how many churches tell people with their heads bowed and their eyes closed, raise your hand if you’ve asked Jesus into your heart. Now you’re saved and you can’t lose that salvation! However, I don’t read that in the Word.
- Jesus said those who are His brothers and sisters keep His commandments! John 8 begins by saving “many believed in Him.” But Jesus didn’t say, great, look how many believe! He begins to challenge their so-called belief and they got angry and defensive. Then He goes on to say “many who believed in Him” that they are children of the Devil (vs 44).
- And then we have the pastors who are not true shepherds. I read in Isaiah 56:10-12: “His watchmen are blind; they are all without knowledge; they are all silent dogs; they cannot bark, dreaming, lying down, loving to slumber. The dogs have a mighty appetite; they never have enough. But they are shepherds who have no understanding; they have all turned to their own way, each to his own gain, one and all.” Then in 1 Timothy 4:1-2: “Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared…” We must not be silent about evil and liars and who is “barking” to those who will listen.
- I’ve been telling everyone I know that the church is so deceived to only preach about love and forgiveness, completely ignoring the other characteristics of God that exposes evil and calls His children to be discerning!!! We NEED to teach our children about evil and what it looks like!! One of the songs most children in Sunday School are taught is, “I’ve got the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart – good song until it comes to a verse that says, “and if the devil doesn’t like it he can sit on a tack. Ouch!” Like he is some kind of impish trouble maker instead of the evil that he is and that he HATES Christians! I skip that verse every time because I don’t want children growing up thinking the enemy is just some annoyance. He wants to rob, kill, and destroy us!!
- Micah 7:5-7 and other scriptures warn not to trust man! 7:5 Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; (6) for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man’s enemies are the men of his own house. (7) But as for me, I will look to the LORD; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me.
- My old pastor (who was a true pastor) used to talk about that all the time. People in the church are too gullible and believe others too easily. I am reading a secular book now, but the author is talking about why people so easily are duped (several people had red flags about Bernie Madoff but ignored them). I couldn’t even listen to one of the stories where this man saw all of the warning signs of a woman high up in our government who was a Cuban spy but refused to believe them! It’s come to the point that I can’t stand blindness and people choosing to be blind and ignorant!!