Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Where Should we Expect to Find the Enemy?

Jude 1:4  For certain people have crept in unnoticed who long ago were designated for this condemnation, ungodly people, who pervert the grace of our God into sensuality and deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ. As a Christian, where has the major portion of suffering and persecution come…

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Abusers Often Betray their Disguise in Subtle Ways we Must not Ignore

A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing. (Proverbs 6:12-15) Winks…

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Scriptures that Demonstrate an Abuser is Not a Christian+

It is crucial that we all keep the definition of an abuser in mind as we work to sort through the subject and all of its deceptions and intricacies. By “abuser” we are not talking about someone who sometimes abuses someone else. If we were, we would all be abusers.…

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An Example of How an Abuser Ally tries to Creep in Among us+

Some time ago (before we started accepting comments at Light for Dark Times) I received the following note from a man I have never heard of. He was complaining because I did not allow comments. Essentially my reason was because I could not take on a double work load of…

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Abused in Your Sleep – Another Control Tactic of the Wicked

I was told that my body was not my own, but the touching went on despite me saying I was so tired and wanted to go back to sleep. I would wake up from the touching and pretend that I was still asleep.  I can only remember once or twice…

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Domestic Abuser Intervention Programs Don't Work – Don't Get Drawn in by Them

As most of our readers probably know, I always tell abuse victims these two things: Abusers never change, and A marriage to an abuser does not need to be fixed, it needs to be ended. I advise people to base their decisions about whether to leave, whether to stay, and…

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Abusers Love the Darkness rather than the Light

We don't usually publish on Tuesday, but this little nugget of truth couldn't wait. Abusers are secretive and enjoy keeping their targets "guessing" about what they (the abuser) are going to do or think or say in given situations. Don Hennessy nails it when he says (emphasis mine), He (the…

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Another Important Facet of True Forgiveness

1Co 6:9-11 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, (10) nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom…

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Projection – A Typical Trait of a Toxic Person

Dale Ingraham shared an article from Shahida Arabi recently which included this characteristic of abusers. I am not familiar enough with Arabi to recommend her material, but she certainly nails it in this statement about "projection." She calls the abuser a "toxic" person and that is a very accurate term.…

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**A Common Claim – "Only God can Judge"+10

1Co 5:12-13 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? (13) God judges those outside. "Purge the evil person from among you." I was reading a commentary on Matthew this morning and came across the following statement…

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