Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Words of Wisdom About Abuse

My friend Joenne posted this on her facebook page and I asked her if I could post it here. This is truth here. Thank you Joenne! October is Domestic Abuse Awareness month, so just a little food for thought. I am not angry, bitter or unforgiving toward anyone, God has…

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Right Back at Ya! The Abuser’s Tactic of Reflective Blaming

Recently I had a refresher course in abuser tactics. Not in a classroom, but in real life. I need these reminders to help me continue to learn how to put into practice what I have learned about abuse. Necessary, because we all so easily revert to our old errors we…

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One Bad Apple…

Ecc 9:18 Wisdom is better than weapons of war, but one sinner destroys much good. Our friend Lynn sent me the following words along with a great picture of two pears hanging from a tree, touching each other. I didn't put the picture here because I wasn't sure about the…

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The Do-Nothing Pastor

Joh 10:12-13 He who is a hired hand and not a shepherd, who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees, and the wolf snatches them and scatters them. (13) He flees because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the…

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Zeal Without Knowledge: Bible Interpretation that Leads to Mercilessness and Injustice

I have written on this subject and on the following Scriptures in other posts. But they have been on my mind again the last few weeks. I keep seeing them violated by Bible teachers, pastors, and counselors of a certain type. Recently I have seen this “zeal without knowledge” pattern…

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You Have the Right to Choose Your Relationships – and the Right to Reject Others

1Co 5:11 But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one.Tit 3:10-11 As for a person who…

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Wayne Grudem isn't Sorry for the Damage He has Done to Abuse Victims

Wayne Grudem. "Distinguished Research Professor of Theology and Biblical Studies, Phoenix Seminary." Wayne Grudem, author of 22 books. Wayne Grudem of The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. Most of you have probably heard of Grudem. In this article, I want to talk to you about Grudem's supposed "groundbreaking" study…

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Still Another Example of a Pastor and church adding to a victim's suffering

Previously I published a letter from a pastor to an abuse victim. You saw how that pastor did what is really the norm to be expected when an abuse victim asks for help. The thing is evil. Well, here is a second letter from a pastor that this same victim…

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Another Accusatory Letter from Pastors to a Victim

It's the same old story over and over again. Abuser abuses while pretending to be a Christian. His victim reports to her pastor asking for help and announcing she is leaving the evildoer. And then here comes the accusatory instrument disguised as "loving concern." In this first case, the letter…

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Abuse of Pastoral Authority is Rampant

1Pe 5:1-3 So I exhort the elders among you, as a fellow elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, as well as a partaker in the glory that is going to be revealed: (2) shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion,…

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