He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? (Luke 6:39) An abuse survivor made the following excellent comment: I grew up very sheltered, I mean genuinely sheltered and protected in a godly Bible-believing home. And if…
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Eph 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. Many years ago not long after I came to this church as a pastor, a man (who we finally realized years later was a reviler, as the bible terms such a person), accused me of…
Read MoreDoes that headline sound like a National Enquirer exaggeration? I wish it were. I want to give you a summary here of “loving Christian counsel” that was recently given to a victim of 25 years of abuse. Intense, evil, destructive abuse directed against her and against her children. It is…
Read MoreRecently a young woman whose father was a very wicked and counterfeit "Christian" pastor, posted on social media that she grew up under this evil and that she works to expose such creeps (my word) when she can. Of course, your so typical holiest-of-all-saints comes along and drops this bomb…
Read MoreThe following illustration has been used to convince abuse victims that the abuse they are suffering is God’s determined will for them, and they need to submit to it. Divorce is out of the question – There was a man, who was given a cross to bear through life. As…
Read MoreThere are popular "ministries" out there that focus on the issue of domestic violence. They can and do provide some good help to victims, but even though they profess to be Christian and biblical in their core beliefs and methods, they are fundamentally flawed in regard to Christ and the…
Read MoreI continue to hammer on this business of abuse as grounds for divorce because frankly I see it as the non-negotiable issue in this battle against abuse and abusers hiding in the church and being enabled by pastors and Christians. As long as anyone refuses to acknowledge that a victim…
Read MoreGood people never pretend to be evil, but evil people pretend to be good. Sheep don’t wear wolves’ clothing. In the beginning, when abuse still had me in the fog and I was a new pastor (the fog can last for years!) I used to think that the many abusers…
Read MoreOne of our good friends, knowledgeable about evil and the wickedness of abuse, wrote the following excellent essay. It deals with this common business of people telling us that we need to endure suffering in order to save our oppressor. The scripture she examines is 2 Corinthians 5:21. Many thanks…
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