Here are some of the typical emails and letters that were sent to Stephanie by her (now ex) pastor. This is the very kind of thing that is laid upon victims by their churches. I will just post a few here and more in a subsequent post, including the formal…
Read More[If you haven't yet read the earlier posts of Stephanie's story, here are the links - Part 1, Part 2] Stephanie's pastor and his wife continued to make excuses for her abuser's wickedness. Now Stephanie tells us how they stepped up that pressure. We will include some of the actual…
Read MoreDue to pressure from her pastor, his wife, and her abuser husband (Terrance), Stephanie returned to the run down, spider and rodent infested house, and to her abuser. If you missed part one, here is the link Part One. And now, Stephanie continues with her story: [In your comments, perhaps…
Read MoreStephanie, like most of our readers, married an abuser and, to make her plight worse, her church and pastor added to the abuse. Stephanie wants to tell her story, so we are publishing it here in a series. AND we are going to include the emails and letters her ex…
Read MoreMany thanks to @daughterofnarcissus for this artwork. She drew it after reading our post at Light for Dark Times on unbiblical forbearance which is so often laid upon victims of abuse. As the first frame indicates, so many people here have been targeted by an abuser for decades. And yet,…
Read MoreYou never loved me. You only wanted to possess me. Your curse is that you cannot love. I came across this quote in, of all places, a dark comedy movie. It jumped out at me as true truth in regard to the people we class as sociopaths and it is…
Read MoreThis was written by IAmMyBeloveds, a survivor who was even ex-communicated from her Presbyterian conservative church because she refused to "reconcile" and submit to her abuser of many, many years. Now who on earth would expect a woman/wife being abused by her spouse verbally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially,…
Read MoreIt hasn’t been that long ago that someone told me our church’s position on divorce was wrong. We acknowledge that God permits divorce for habitual, unrepentant, hard-hearted violation of the marriage vows. Sexual unfaithfulness, failure to love and provide for, desertion, and abuse (a kind of desertion) are, we maintain,…
Read MoreGen 3:1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” Over the years in this ministry to abuse victims, I…
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