Unholy Charade - Jeff Crippen

Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Part Two – the Damage Men's and Women's Ministries Typically Do

Last Wednesday I wrote a post on how men's and women's church ministries very often promote abuse in the church. In response, Wingingit made a wonderfully accurate comment that really says what I was trying to say, only better.  So here is her comment in a stand alone post to…

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Update on Mack – Good News from the Doctor

Rite (Mack's wife) sent the following good news update this morning. Please continue to pray for Mack and Rite. He still has a long way to go: Dr McCord update: - This morning they checked his labs and Mack’s kidneys are functioning on their own❣️❣️ Dr McCord said it is…

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Please Pray for Mack and His Wife

I would like to ask all of you to pray for my friends Mack and his wife Rite (pronounced "Reet"). Mack has been an elder in our church here for many years. Both he and Rite were here when I came 27 years ago and they have faithfully stood with…

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Another New Book is Now Available on Amazon – Light for Dark Times

We have just published another new book, Light for Dark Times: An Arsenal of Truth to Expose Domestic Abuse.   It is a compilation of 96 blog posts from Unholy Charade put into book form and you can order it now on Amazon. [I inserted the front cover image here and…

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Men's and Women's Ministries as a Seedbed for Abuse

Galatians 3:28 ESV  There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. I have had a sticky note on my desk to write about this subject for a few weeks now, so I…

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Why Christian Abuse Victims Retain Their Faith

John 17:14-15, I have given them your word, and the world has hated them because they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. (15) I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil…

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Another Letter from Pastor Screwtape to a Domestic Abuse Victim

As you know, most of the domestic abuse victims we hear from are women. Abusers are most often men. But not always. We have dealt with cases in which the woman was clearly the abuser, and in some ways it is even more difficult for men to understand what is…

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Watch out for Mean followed by Nice, followed by Mean….

Psalms 21:7-8 For the king trusts in the LORD, and through the steadfast love of the Most High he shall not be moved. Your hand will find out all your enemies; your right hand will find out those who hate you. One of the very common tactics of abusers is…

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Hated Without a Cause

Psalms 69:4 ESV  More in number than the hairs of my head are those who hate me without cause; mighty are those who would destroy me, those who attack me with lies. What I did not steal must I now restore? Psalms 109:2-5 ESV  For wicked and deceitful mouths are…

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If the Victim had Just Kept Quiet, All Would be Well….?

Scott Allen Johnson wrote the first book that I ever read about abusers (domestic and/or sexual). It opened my eyes to what had been happening to me as a pastor for over 20 years at the hands of power and control seekers, spiritual abusers, all of whom used their wicked…

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