Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Book Review: The Peacemaker — Peace at Any Cost?

The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande is no friend of abuse victims and has real potential to increase their suffering greatly.  This book has been in use for some years now (1991) and we have had reports of it creating havoc in abuse settings.…

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We All Begin in Naivete About Evil — But We Must Not Stay There

 He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit?  (Luke 6:39) An abuse survivor made the following excellent comment:  I grew up very sheltered, I mean genuinely sheltered and protected in a godly Bible-believing home. And if…

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Love Gone Wrong – Thoughts for Valentines Day

Love gone wrong One of our friends recently came across this Valentine she made as a second grader. She has been the target of several evil abusers in her life (now free and wise, thankfully), and she reflected on what this heart-filled creation says about her concept of love back…

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Abusers Expose Themselves: Some Early Warning Signs to Watch for

This post is written mostly from personal experience. It addresses a topic that generally leads me to start talking to myself:  “Jeff, how could you have been so stupid? Why didn’t you realize what that person was a long, long time ago?” You know that kind of self-talk I bet.…

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Honor is not about Deserving – Really?

Recently a young woman whose father was a very wicked and counterfeit "Christian" pastor, posted on social media that she grew up under this evil and that she works to expose such creeps (my word) when she can. Of course, your so typical holiest-of-all-saints comes along and drops this bomb…

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He is Just the Nicest Man I’ve Ever Met — Beware the Charm of Evil

The sins of some people are conspicuous, going before them to judgment, but the sins of others appear later. So also good works are conspicuous, and even those that are not cannot remain hidden. (1 Timothy 5:24-25) One of the important things we do here at Unholy Charade is to…

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How Evil Lies

Joh 8:44 You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for…

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Being Abused does not Justify Abusing

Rom 12:17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.1Th 5:15 See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.1Pe 3:9 Do not repay evil for evil…

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Desiring Justice or Craving Revenge? Two Very Different Things

Rom 12:19-21 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (20) To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so…

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Twisted Theology Produces a Den of Abusers Parading as the church

With remarkable frequency we meet abuse victims, mostly Christians, who originally met their abuser in a local church. Or in a Christian college or similar setting. In the church! Why? How can this be? Well, the answer is not only that abusers are exceptionally deceptive, but churches far and wide…

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