This post is written mostly from personal experience. It addresses a topic that generally leads me to start talking to myself: “Jeff, how could you have been so stupid? Why didn’t you realize what that person was a long, long time ago?” You know that kind of self-talk I bet.…
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Look carefully at this quote taken from William Shirer's great book, The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich - The President, backed by the Army and the conservatives, had made him [ie, Hitler] Chancellor. His political power, though great, was, however, not complete. It was shared with these three…
Read MoreOne of the qualities of counterfeit "brethren" is that you always sense their relationship/friendship/love they claim for us is tentative. You may not really be able to verbalize it right away, but you feel it. There is always an "if." If you say the wrong thing...then. If you do something....then.…
Read MoreGood people never pretend to be evil, but evil people pretend to be good. Sheep don’t wear wolves’ clothing. In the beginning, when abuse still had me in the fog and I was a new pastor (the fog can last for years!) I used to think that the many abusers…
Read MoreRom 16:17-18 I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. (18) For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they…
Read MoreThe woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are…
Read MoreAnything you say can and will be used against you. Mat 26:59-61 Now the chief priests and the whole council were seeking false testimony against Jesus that they might put him to death, (60) but they found none, though many false witnesses came forward. At last two came forward (61)…
Read MoreRecently I had a refresher course in abuser tactics. Not in a classroom, but in real life. I need these reminders to help me continue to learn how to put into practice what I have learned about abuse. Necessary, because we all so easily revert to our old errors we…
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