Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Can You ‘Love’ Your Abuser into Repentance?

If favor is shown to the wicked, he does not learn righteousness; in the land of uprightness he deals corruptly and does not see the majesty of the LORD. (Isaiah 26:10) A normal, non-toxic person responds positively to kindness shown to them. They are thankful. They want to show kindness…

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Some Red Flags that Give the RASN Away

3 John 1:9 I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first, does not acknowledge our authority. RASNs are not rare. I group these four toxic types together in this RASN acronym (Revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) because, for instance, narcissists revile (abusive speech), they…

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A Diversion Tactic of the “Religious” RASN

Listen to this insightful quote from a pastor of days gone by (in the 1800's) regarding how the wicked divert attention from the own evils: Speculation about theological doctrine is often found in an unnatural union with habitual neglect of moral duty. And among the endless winding paths of the…

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We Cannot Say this Enough – RASNs Believe they have the Right to Dictate What You Think

Tyrants are all about control and power. Dictators in the political realm, for example, demand to control not only what you say, but what you think. You don't have the right to hold an opinion that differs from theirs. If you do and the tyrant finds out, expect a vicious…

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Were RASNs always this bad? – the Progressive nature of Sin

Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; In this description of the righteous person, David states three negatives to show qualities of the godly - walks not, stands…

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Bunyan’s Insights into The Devil’s Invasion Plans of Eden – The Enemy uses our Naivete against us

NOTE: I originally published this post back in 2022. But we have just begun reading John Bunyan's Holy War in the Sunday morning class and we came across this same quote. It is incredibly important in opening our eyes to how evil takes advantage of our naivete, so here it…

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John Bunyan Describes a RASN Perfectly in “The Life and Death of Mr. Badman”

We’ve talked a good deal about his evil ways, but Mr. Badman added this to all his wickedness − he was a very proud man − exceedingly proud and haughty in mind. He had a look that said he must not be contradicted or opposed, because he considered himself to…

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RASNs are Fools – Here is a Perfect Example

As a follow up to this previous post - RASNs are Stupid, The Lord Says So - I want to give you a perfect example provided by a friend who is an abuse survivor. Her story shows how these kind of toxic people are actually made to be fools by…

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RASNs are Stupid – The Lord Says So

Pro 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Pro 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. A RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist) refuses to be corrected. He knows that he knows and…

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RASNs Dig up the Past (and twist it)

“Their throat is an open grave; they use their tongues to deceive.” “The venom of asps is under their lips.” “Their mouth is full of curses and bitterness.” (Rom 3:13-14) Narcissistic abusers and their kind (RASNs) dig up the past. And they will do so entirely out of context. By…

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