Unholy Charade - Jeff Crippen

Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

A Very Helpful Video (only 12 minutes) on the Covert Narcissist

I have found Dr. Les Carter's youtube videos extremely helpful. I have not seen anywhere so far in which he professes to be a Christian but nevertheless I have benefitted quite a lot from his lectures. As you will hear in this video (link below), some narcissists are very overt…

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Abusers, Narcissists, and Their Sort all Wear a Disguise

Joh 8:44 You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for…

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Book Review: The Peacemaker — Peace at Any Cost?

The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande is no friend of abuse victims and has real potential to increase their suffering greatly.  This book has been in use for some years now (1991) and we have had reports of it creating havoc in abuse settings.…

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We All Begin in Naivete About Evil — But We Must Not Stay There

 He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit?  (Luke 6:39) An abuse survivor made the following excellent comment:  I grew up very sheltered, I mean genuinely sheltered and protected in a godly Bible-believing home. And if…

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Lord, Do Not Forgive Them, For They Know Exactly What They Are Doing

Nehemiah 4:1-5   Now when Sanballat heard that we were building the wall, he was angry and greatly enraged, and he jeered at the Jews. And he said in the presence of his brothers and of the army of Samaria, “What are these feeble Jews doing? Will they restore it…

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Slapping you with The Gossip Card

Eph 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. Many years ago not long after I came to this church as a pastor, a man (who we finally realized years later was a reviler, as the bible terms such a person), accused me of…

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Love Gone Wrong – Thoughts for Valentines Day

Love gone wrong One of our friends recently came across this Valentine she made as a second grader. She has been the target of several evil abusers in her life (now free and wise, thankfully), and she reflected on what this heart-filled creation says about her concept of love back…

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Anger Management is Not the Answer

A reader recently wrote and said that her ex, and abusive man for over two decades, insists that his only problem is anger.  He claims to be a Christian and is verbally repentant about his anger.  The only problem is that in the same breath that he “confesses” his anger,…

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But He has Changed!

Luk 3:7-8 He said therefore to the crowds that came out to be baptized by him, “You brood of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the wrath to come? (8) Bear fruits in keeping with repentance. And do not begin to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our…

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Abusers Expose Themselves: Some Early Warning Signs to Watch for

This post is written mostly from personal experience. It addresses a topic that generally leads me to start talking to myself:  “Jeff, how could you have been so stupid? Why didn’t you realize what that person was a long, long time ago?” You know that kind of self-talk I bet.…

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