There are scores of books written and designed to be used to counsel engaged couples, purporting to make them better prepared for marriage. Many pastors insist on pre-marriage counseling before they will agree to perform a wedding. I am sure that their intent is good, but frankly, I have never enjoyed nor felt any degree of excitement about this kind of counseling. I have done it out of “duty.” It is expected. People think that we need to pull out all the stops and do everything we can to turn a shaky takeoff into a solid flight.
But it isn’t working, and I think we know it.