One of the most difficult truths to grasp is the realization that the domestic abuser does not think like us. Your abuser's thoughts are not your thoughts. Let me explain by illustration. Victor Davis Hanson, in his book The Second World Wars [Basic Books, 2017] a statement by the British…
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Act 9:13-15 But Ananias answered, “Lord, I have heard from many about this man, how much evil he has done to your saints at Jerusalem. (14) And here he has authority from the chief priests to bind all who call on your name.” (15) But the Lord said to him,…
Read MoreStephanie, like most of our readers, married an abuser and, to make her plight worse, her church and pastor added to the abuse. Stephanie wants to tell her story, so we are publishing it here in a series. AND we are going to include the emails and letters her ex…
Read MoreYou never loved me. You only wanted to possess me. Your curse is that you cannot love. I came across this quote in, of all places, a dark comedy movie. It jumped out at me as true truth in regard to the people we class as sociopaths and it is…
Read MoreGen 3:1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” Over the years in this ministry to abuse victims, I…
Read MoreFor although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. (Romans 1:21) I cannot tell you how many, many years I was blind to the fact that (1) I was…
Read MoreI have written on this subject before, but it comes around in my mind once again. Here is a fact that will serve you well in helping identify and defend against an abuser: Abusers are accusers. A normal, healthy, safe relationship is not characterized by accusations. If someone is regularly…
Read MoreProverbs 30:20 This is the way of an adulteress: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, “I have done no wrong.” When there is a crime, there is a victim and a criminal. It is just that simple. If your house was burglarized, would you believe for a second…
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