Does that headline sound like a National Enquirer exaggeration? I wish it were. I want to give you a summary here of “loving Christian counsel” that was recently given to a victim of 25 years of abuse. Intense, evil, destructive abuse directed against her and against her children. It is…
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The following illustration has been used to convince abuse victims that the abuse they are suffering is God’s determined will for them, and they need to submit to it. Divorce is out of the question – There was a man, who was given a cross to bear through life. As…
Read MoreThere are popular "ministries" out there that focus on the issue of domestic violence. They can and do provide some good help to victims, but even though they profess to be Christian and biblical in their core beliefs and methods, they are fundamentally flawed in regard to Christ and the…
Read MoreI continue to hammer on this business of abuse as grounds for divorce because frankly I see it as the non-negotiable issue in this battle against abuse and abusers hiding in the church and being enabled by pastors and Christians. As long as anyone refuses to acknowledge that a victim…
Read MoreGood people never pretend to be evil, but evil people pretend to be good. Sheep don’t wear wolves’ clothing. In the beginning, when abuse still had me in the fog and I was a new pastor (the fog can last for years!) I used to think that the many abusers…
Read MoreWhen I first came to our church here nearly 30 years ago, as I have told you previously, it was a mess. A mass of unconverted people who walked in sin and yet had been assured for years that they were surely fine Christians. One of those people was Randy.…
Read MoreEcc 9:18 Wisdom is better than weapons of war, but one sinner destroys much good. Our friend Lynn sent me the following words along with a great picture of two pears hanging from a tree, touching each other. I didn't put the picture here because I wasn't sure about the…
Read MoreJoh 10:12-13 He who is a hired hand and not a shepherd, who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees, and the wolf snatches them and scatters them. (13) He flees because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the…
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