Psa 5:9 For there is no truth in their mouth; their inmost self is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue.
Psa 109:4 In return for my love they accuse me, but I give myself to prayer.
One of the most evil and typical tactics of RASNs (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) is that they are never to be blamed – at least that is their mindset. Never at fault. And to maintain this fake innocence, they by their very nature utilize what we call “projection.” We are seeing examples of it everyday in the news. Wicked leaders are projecting, launching the blame onto others, accusing them of being guilty of the very thing the wicked themselves are doing.
No one has to teach a RASN how to do this. They all do it by nature. You see it in serial killers. Now, if anyone in the world is guilty, surely a serial killer is. I recently read a book about the Green River killer in Washington state who, over 20 years, murdered at least 49 young women. But just ask him. He will tell you that it really wasn’t his fault. His victims were to blame. His upbringing was to blame. The police were to blame. These wicked ones reflect their own guilt like a mirror reflects light. Bounce it right back to the ones who are innocent and blame them.
This is what domestic abusers do of course. “She pushed my buttons.” “I had to teach her a lesson.” “He doesn’t listen so I had to get his attention.” It’s never their fault that the household budget is in shambles. It’s never their fault that they raged. Point our their sin and they shoot it right back at you.
I suppose this projection business even tells us that when an abuse victim reveals the abuse to us and we confront the abuser, we can conclude that he/she is condemned by their own mouth. By that, I mean that what they accuse the victim of, they are doing themselves. That is how this projection business works. And projection is very, very, very typical. You can count on an abuser to practice it.