I think this is one of the most cruel letters from a pastor to an abuse victim that I have seen. While it is very similar in ways to others I have read, it is remarkably deceptive in a number of ways. The “love” words it uses. The selective and…
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Matthew 24:16-18 then let those who are in Judea flee to the mountains. (17) Let the one who is on the housetop not go down to take what is in his house, (18) and let the one who is in the field not turn back to take his cloak. These…
Read MoreLuk 19:8 And Zacchaeus stood and said to the Lord, “Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I give to the poor. And if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I restore it fourfold.” As we see in this account of Zacchaeus, one mark of a genuine Christian is concern…
Read MoreAnd behold, there was a woman who had had a disabling spirit for eighteen years. She was bent over and could not fully straighten herself. When Jesus saw her, he called her over and said to her, “Woman, you are freed from your disability.” And he laid his hands on…
Read MoreNow we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for…
Read MoreThere are many other emails that were avalanched onto Stephanie by her ex-pastor which also included some communications from the "biblical counselor." All of them put the primary burden for "saving the marriage" on Stephanie rather than where it belonged, on her abuser. Here is a copy of the letter…
Read More[If you haven't yet read the earlier posts of Stephanie's story, here are the links - Part 1, Part 2] Stephanie's pastor and his wife continued to make excuses for her abuser's wickedness. Now Stephanie tells us how they stepped up that pressure. We will include some of the actual…
Read MoreDue to pressure from her pastor, his wife, and her abuser husband (Terrance), Stephanie returned to the run down, spider and rodent infested house, and to her abuser. If you missed part one, here is the link Part One. And now, Stephanie continues with her story: [In your comments, perhaps…
Read MoreIt hasn’t been that long ago that someone told me our church’s position on divorce was wrong. We acknowledge that God permits divorce for habitual, unrepentant, hard-hearted violation of the marriage vows. Sexual unfaithfulness, failure to love and provide for, desertion, and abuse (a kind of desertion) are, we maintain,…
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