Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

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Reviler is the biblical word for an abuser. Other words are used in Scripture to describe the evil that abusers do, but this title “reviler” gets to the heart of it. You see that little root in the word – “vil” – which reminds us of related terms like “villain,” or “villify” or, hmmm…. “vile.” A reviler is vile. Anyway, what a reviler does is to make the innocent be the villain. And they do this by accusing. Revilers are accusers and that evil is part of the very nature of the devil himself:

Rev 12:10 And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God.

RASNs Make Promises, Then Attack When we Act on Them

Pro 14:5 A faithful witness will not lie, But a false witness speaks lies. Many years ago, in the first church I pastored, there was a woman who regarded herself as a pillar of the church. She was the pianist. She was the church bookkeeper. She hosted and taught a…

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A Review of What a Reviler is

But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one. (1Co 5:11) The "R" in our acronym RASN…

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Why are RASN’s Threatened When we Disagree With Them?

Proverbs 22:24-25 Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, (25) lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare. If you have had much contact at all with a RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist), then you have no doubt been…

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Why are RASNs Drawn to Churches?

Recently I experienced a replay of something (someone) which has happened to me countless times in my 41 years as a pastor. I suspect that most of you will say, "Oh yes, I have met that guy too." The setting is in the local church. Some Sunday, let's call him…

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John Bunyan Describes a RASN Perfectly in “The Life and Death of Mr. Badman”

We’ve talked a good deal about his evil ways, but Mr. Badman added this to all his wickedness − he was a very proud man − exceedingly proud and haughty in mind. He had a look that said he must not be contradicted or opposed, because he considered himself to…

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Insisting that an Abuser is a Christian is a denial of the Biblical Doctrine of the New Birth

2Co 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. One of the most prevalent false teachings found in local churches, "Christian" literature and "Christian" counseling is the insistence that a RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist) can…

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Sugar and Spice but Nothing Nice

Pro 5:3-4 For the lips of an adulteress drip honey And smoother than oil is her speech; (4) But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two-edged sword. Solomon is specifically warning his son here about the danger of the wicked woman, but I want to…

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Let’s Talk about the Cruelty and Coldness of the RASN’s Abandonment

for Demas, having loved this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica...(2Ti 4:10) Where to begin with this topic? Narcissists - let's start here (and the rest of the RASN crowd does the same thing anyway). A relationship - a friendship, a marriage, a familial relation, etc, with…

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RASNs are Fools – Here is a Perfect Example

As a follow up to this previous post - RASNs are Stupid, The Lord Says So - I want to give you a perfect example provided by a friend who is an abuse survivor. Her story shows how these kind of toxic people are actually made to be fools by…

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RASNs are Stupid – The Lord Says So

Pro 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Pro 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. A RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist) refuses to be corrected. He knows that he knows and…

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