Rev 12:10 Then I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation, and the power, and the kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren has been thrown down, he who accuses them before our God day and night.

Notice from this verse (and others) that Satan accuses Christ’s people. He has been thrown out of heaven, but you can be sure that he will uses whatever channels he can to accuse us. This is different than the operation of our conscience. This is the enemy working to cast guilt and shame on those he wants to destroy.

RASNs (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) are servants of the devil. So it is not surprising that they use this same evil tactic of accusing their targeted victim. Most all of you know that a RASN is never wrong. RASNs use their accusatory missiles to tell us that WE are the guilty ones, that WE are to blame – you get the picture.

Now, when these fiery darts of accusation come at us, because evil so so deceiving and blinding, our first response is often to say – “I’m sorry.” Many abuse victims can be heard to say these two words countless times each day. They have been programmed by the evil coming at them to accept fault.

Why does this happen? That is to say, why do we so quickly respond to a RASN with “I’m sorry”? Let me suggest some reasons:

  • We do not naturally understand evil and its tactics.
  • We do not understand the mindset of the RASN
  • We do not initially grasp the fact that the RASN accusing us is lying
  • We do not easily understand that the RASN in our life is in fact an enemy. It is difficult to realize that this person who has professed to be our friend or spouse is in reality out to destroy us.
  • We do not quickly realize that in fact we have done nothing wrong, but we are made to feel convicted because of the RASNs accusations.
  • WE do not realize WHO and WHAT this accuser really is. Satan’s servants can disguise themselves as sons of righteousness.

The list could go on – I am sure many of you could add to it.

Perhaps we should work on training ourselves to slow down when some accusation or blaming comes at us. Slow down. An answer need not be give immediately. Take some time to think things through. To examine yourself. To revisit your motives in respect to the thing someone is accusing you of.

For myself, I have said “I’m sorry” too quickly many times when in fact I had done nothing wrong. I regret accepting blame so quickly. It takes some time to think back, consider the facts, and also to examine very carefully what the motives of our accuser might really be. In particular, we should be quite slow to accept any blame or believe any accusation that is coming from someone who fires these kinds of guilt-missiles our way rather frequently.