Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

False Forgiveness as Accusation

1Jn 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

The Lord’s forgiveness is always genuine. It is applied to the truly repentant sinner. When we sin, as the Apostle John says here, and we genuinely confess our sin, the Lord is always, always, always faithful to forgive us. Further, He remains righteous in doing so. His forgiveness is not just some winking at sin, but because of the Cross of Christ our sins are paid for.

But RASNs (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) not only refuse to confess their sin, they project their own evil upon others. Blaming, guilting, accusing. They are never wrong.

And sometimes, in a hypocritical show of “godliness,” they inform us that they “forgive” us. The sin is theirs, but they lay it to our account. And that is what this false forgiveness is – an accusation. For forgiveness to be announced, some sin must have been committed – only in this warped twist of reality, the real sinner becomes the forgiver! The innocent becomes the forgiven!

False forgiveness as accusation works as a two-edged sword. It props up the shame image of saintliness in the wicked, and it transfers guilt from the guilty to the innocent. This devilish business is worse than open, hostile accusation because it operates as part of a honey-dripping disguise worn by a very wicked person.

Picture it this way – think of Satan telling the Lord, “I forgive you for all of the wrongdoing you have done to me.” The thing is ludicrous of course, but in fact that is the same thing the RASN does with this false forgiveness business.

The mask of piety will quickly come off when we turn to focus from how we supposedly sinned against the RASN, and insist that we talk about the sins of the RASN against us. So don’t wear the guilt and blame which this diabolic devise is designed to put on you. False forgiveness is a false accusation and it is important that we see it as such.


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1 Comment

  1. Deb

    Whoa, now that tactic is way too familiar to me. Nicely stated.

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