Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Little gods – the wicked demand worship

Act 20:29-30 I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; (30) and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them.

We know that the fundamental motive of Satan is – “I will be like the Most High.” He tempted Jesus to worship him. He usurped God’s Word in the garden. He is the spirit of antichrist, setting himself up in the temple and declaring he is God.

It is not surprising therefore that his diabolic servants do the same. You see it here in Acts 20 when Paul warns the people at Ephesus to be on guard. Right from among themselves savage wolves would arise. And their motive? To draw away the disciples after them. Looking for a following. Looking for worshipers to worship them. They are like their father the devil.

You know that domestic abusers seek power and control. Translate that. Domestic abusers seek to be worshipped. They view themselves as gods. Like Nebuchadnezzar of Daniel’s day, they command the orchestra to play and for their select targets to then bow down in worship. Or else. Victims are still being cast into the fiery furnace for refusing to do so (and Christ still meets us in that furnace).

Narcissists, sociopaths, abusers – they are little gods. They fashion themselves into deities and view themselves as such. Think of Diotrephes in 3 John who “wanted to be first.” Churches are so often infested by these idols and so often end up giving them what is due only to Christ – worship.

So let’s beware. Let’s be wise. When we sense pressure to bow down (and that pressure, as you know, can be very covert and unseen – but felt), we can know that something is very wrong. The Spirit of the Lord always, always, always draws our attention to Christ, never to a man. He leads us to obey Christ and we find, as we do, that Jesus’ yoke is easy. The yoke of a false god is oppressive, always accompanied by threats and fear.

Gal 5:1 For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.


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  1. Leanne

    It took a while, but I came to realize that with my abusive ex that he wanted me to put him above God in my life.

  2. Be aware and be wise……

    These comments are eerie, and very accurate. I observed within a few months of marriage that the abuser had a serious god-complex, not only a complete walking deceiver, he was his own god. That was the most blatant dismissal of the Lord until I was exposed to the abuser’s allies in the “church” body – yes, those that scrambled to protect the “holy” abuser were the ones that also had the same god-complex. The god-complex is as serious as it sounds and the abuser had no problem gathering followers to do more damage. R-u-n from these people, they are wicked and are above the law…. they are as bad as the Bible warned. As you said, beware and be wise.

    The abuser could not stand to be exposed for the deceiver that he is, and sought to destroy those who did …. Sound familiar?

  3. Jacob

    Amen! Accurate to a T! I have seen this in a local Baptist Church. The pastor claimed he was saving people. His sermons were trash and had nothing to do with Christ. The congregation worshipped him no doubt. If you questioned what he was saying it would be met with an insulting response and sometimes he would publicly humiliate that person. A true false prophet and people are completely blind to his disgusting behavior. Christ will repay. Another coal for the lake of fire.


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