Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Category: Counseling

There are Wolves Out There Parading as Christian Advocates of Abuse Victims – Beware!

Tit 1:10-11  For there are many who are insubordinate, empty talkers and deceivers, especially those of the circumcision party.  (11)  They must be silenced, since they are upsetting whole families by teaching for shameful gain what they ought not to teach. 1Ti 6:3-5  If anyone teaches a different doctrine and…

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We Must Not Excuse the Wicked Person's Wickedness and Call him a Christian

Recently I addressed in some comments this subject of who a Christian is - and who is not. As you know, we have had the tiring mantra of "we are all sinners" thrown at us as an excuse for abusers and as a club to force us to "show love…

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Get Behind Me, Satan – The Times we Tell People to be Silent

Mat 16:22-23 And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him, saying, "Far be it from you, Lord! This shall never happen to you." (23) But he turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind…

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Domestic Abuser Intervention Programs Don't Work – Don't Get Drawn in by Them

As most of our readers probably know, I always tell abuse victims these two things: Abusers never change, and A marriage to an abuser does not need to be fixed, it needs to be ended. I advise people to base their decisions about whether to leave, whether to stay, and…

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Abuse and Pre-Marriage Counseling: We Must Change Our Approach+

There are scores of books written and designed to be used to counsel engaged couples, purporting to make them better prepared for marriage.  Many pastors insist on pre-marriage counseling before they will agree to perform a wedding.  I am sure that their intent is good, but frankly, I have never…

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When a Pastor Claims to be God's Prophet: Wicked and Harmful Words to an Abuse Victim

A victim of a very deceitful, habitually lying abuser shared an interaction she had with the pastor of a church she and the abuser attended. We thank her very much for allowing us to publish what this pastor told her. As is so typical, you see here the incredible arrogance…

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Solomon, Two women, and Counseling

Most of you know that counseling married couples together in an abuse situation is a serious error. It just is not to be done. The wicked one will simply lie, wear a mask, and afterwards use the session to further attack his victim. As I was thinking about this recently,…

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