Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Category: Churches/Church Response Page 15 of 22

Preaching Perseverance and Patience to Abuse Victims? Time to get a Clue!

Many thanks to No One Down Here for this powerful comment. I decided to make it a stand alone post to be sure everyone was able to see it.  She wrote this in response to the artwork strip done for us published on Nov 4th.  Pastors, church leaders, "biblical" counselors,…

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Stephanie's Story – Part 6 – Excommunicated

There are many other emails that were avalanched onto Stephanie by her ex-pastor which also included some communications from the "biblical counselor." All of them put the primary burden for "saving the marriage" on Stephanie rather than where it belonged, on her abuser. Here is a copy of the letter…

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Stephanie's Story – Part 5 – More Letters from the "Pastor"

We continue with Stephanie's story of abuse not only at the hands of her ex-husband but in some ways even more so by her ex-pastor and church. If you have not read the first 4 parts of her story in earlier posts, be sure to do so. Part 1   Part…

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Stephanie's Story – Part 4 (Communiques from the Devil) **

Here are some of the typical emails and letters that were sent to Stephanie by her (now ex) pastor. This is the very kind of thing that is laid upon victims by their churches. I will just post a few here and more in a subsequent post, including the formal…

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Stephanie's Story: Part 3

[If you haven't yet read the earlier posts of Stephanie's story, here are the links - Part 1, Part 2] Stephanie's pastor and his wife continued to make excuses for her abuser's wickedness. Now Stephanie tells us how they stepped up that pressure. We will include some of the actual…

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Stephanie's Story: Part 2

Due to pressure from her pastor, his wife, and her abuser husband (Terrance), Stephanie returned to the run down, spider and rodent infested house, and to her abuser. If you missed part one, here is the link Part One. And now, Stephanie continues with her story: [In your comments, perhaps…

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Stephanie's Story: Part 1

Stephanie, like most of our readers, married an abuser and, to make her plight worse, her church and pastor added to the abuse. Stephanie wants to tell her story, so we are publishing it here in a series. AND we are going to include the emails and letters her ex…

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Patience? Really?

Many thanks to @daughterofnarcissus for this artwork. She drew it after reading our post at Light for Dark Times on unbiblical forbearance which is so often laid upon victims of abuse. As the first frame indicates, so many people here have been targeted by an abuser for decades. And yet,…

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Some Truth from a Survivor

This was written by IAmMyBeloveds, a survivor who was even ex-communicated from her Presbyterian conservative church because she refused to "reconcile" and submit to her abuser of many, many years. Now who on earth would expect a woman/wife being abused by her spouse verbally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, physically and financially,…

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The Widows and Orphans of Our Time

James 1:27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world. There are literal widows and orphans today who need our help. Widows who are widows indeed, without even family members…

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