The Dark Secrecy of Narcissistic Abuse

Deuteronomy 27:24  ‘Cursed is he who strikes his neighbor in secret.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’

It takes a long time for us to wake up to the existence and nature of narcissistic abuse. RASNs as I call them (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists), operate in darkness and secrecy – behind the scenes. They wear disguises. They live a lie. They use tactics that are not easily recognized by their targets. As the Word of God says, such people are cursed by the Lord.

Many of you have, I suspect, experienced the same kind of thing that I have. Years go by and only decades later does the truth become evident. The real evil that was happening, the abuse launched against the victim all that time or so long ago – comes to light. And you respond – “I didn’t know.” And you really didn’t know. Satan’s kingdom is the kingdom of darkness, and his servants operate in darkness where no one sees.

The deception can make us feel guilty. “How could I have missed it? How could I have not seen?” Well, you didn’t see because you cannot see in the darkness. A secret is a secret – until it is revealed.

But the Lord is Light. He reveals what is hidden and what is secret. That is why the wicked hate Him and all who belong to Him. His Light exposes the darkness and the evil deeds being done in it –

John 3:20  “For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light lest his deeds be exposed.

This is why it is vital for us to constantly ask the Lord to reveal what is hidden, to open our eyes so that we can discern. Praying in this way and diligently giving ourselves to the serious study of God’s Word is essential if the lights are going to go on for us. Those red flags, those feelings that all is not well – can only be recognized for what they are if we are trained to discern –

Hebrews 5:13-14  For everyone who partakes only of milk is not accustomed to the word of righteousness, for he is an infant.  (14)  But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern both good and evil.