RASNs are Like Their Father the Devil

John 8:44  You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

Light and Darkness are incompatible. They cannot be reconciled. There is no gray area or middle ground of agreement. And so it is with good and evil, righteousness and unrighteousness.

2 Corinthians 6:14-15  Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?  (15)  What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?

The RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist) is darkness. When we talk about this kind of individual, we are not speaking about a mere “difficult” person or about someone who is a “normal” unsaved person. We all have to operate in this fallen world and that means having to be in various relationships with non-Christian people. Employers, neighbors, family members, and so on.

But when we consider the RASN (and typically we deal here with the domestic abuser) we have left the realm of the “normal” and entered the territory of the abnormal. These are people who, like the Pharisees who hated Christ, actively seek to destroy (their father the devil is a murderer from the beginning), and they actively seek, through their arsenal of abuser tactics, to exercises power and control over their target. They are darkness and servants of the god of this world.

This is true of course of all unsaved people who are dead in their sin, in bondage to the devil. But might we not be correct in saying that there is a gradient of evil? All who are outside of Christ are in the darkness. They are servants of sin. They hate the law of God. So there is no one “good.” Not even one (see Romans 3:10ff).

But the RASN – take the narcissist or the sociopath for instance – is on the farther end of the spectrum of evil. Without conscience. Devoid of empathy. Heartless and cruel. An active hater of what is good and right.

These truths the typical professing Christian and the typical pastor or Christian counselor just doesn’t get or admit to. How often I have had these kind of people tell me “but we are all sinners.” They want to categorize the unregenerate into one common lump. But that is not reality. There really are people who are more evil than others, and RASNs are of that level of wickedness.

Therefore, when the church tells a victim of domestic abuse that she (or sometimes he) must remain in marriage to their abuser, what does this mean? It means that such “counselors” are demanding that darkness and light co-exist. Remember, I am not talking about a situation in which a Christian finds herself married to an unsaved husband. I am addressing the scenario of a Christian married to a RASN. To demand that such a non-marriage continue is to deny the nature of the wicked spouse. Jesus said that such people are of their father the devil. That they share their father’s wicked DNA and thus, like him, they are liars and murderers. They don’t just want to not think about Christ, they want to kill Him and all who belong to Him.

When a church leader then, orders an abuse victim to remain bound to her RASN, that leader is actually ordering her to continue to live with Cain, who is in various ways, acting with murderous intent toward her. I have written elsewhere that domestic abuse is murder cooked slowly. Just put her on the barbeque on low and let her cook.