Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Yes, They Are Indeed Lying

Joh 8:44 You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

If you watch crime shows that recount, for example, murder cases, you will be amazed at how these psychopaths can look right at the camera or at even their victim’s family members, or the judge, and lie without flinching. It is as if they believe the lie themselves. But this is the nature of their father the devil and RASNs (revilers, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists) to one degree or another share in this evil ability.

You’ve seen it. Neighbors and friends are just sooooo certain that the criminal has been falsely accused. There is just noooo way he/she would EVER have done such a thing. But they did do it. And not only are they lying once they have been arrested, they have been lying their entire life. They present, daily, a facade, a disguise, a persona that they demand everyone believe. EVERYTHING they do is designed to support that false self and if the rest of us know what is good for us – we had better support it too! (so the RASN insists).

So it’s time for all of us to wise up. The RASN is lying! The RASN did do it! He or she is NOT the person you think they are. And I suppose that largely this is why Jesus said:

Mat 7:16 You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?

The reason we think that these wicked ones are who they appear to be is because THEY wear the disguise. THEY tell us who they are – the false self. And we need to stop falling for it. There is a behind the scenes drama playing out that betrays their disguise, and if we are wise we will watch for it because every so often a crack appears when the mask slips a bit.

I watched a real life crime show recently in which a flat-out psychopath murdered a young woman who thought he was a friend. This murder went undetected for over a decade and by that time he had become engaged to marry another woman. Meanwhile, detectives learned that – get this! – when he was 12 years old he had murdered both of his parents and had been sent to juvenile prison until he was 21. He never showed any remorse or emotion. He used a shotgun and a baseball bat in a rage to kill them. And then, when he turned 21, the courts turned him loose. And he killed again.

Now – listen to this – the woman he was engaged to, even though she learned about him killing his parents, insisted (and still does) that there is no way he could have murdered the young woman. He just isn’t that kind of person, she said.

This is evil. When we refuse to look at the rotten fruit and insist that the tree is good anyway, then we are enabling and participating in evil. We need to grow up and understand that children of the devil are quite capable of doing what their father does – lie and lie and lie some more in a more convincing way than someone who is telling the truth! They can and they do.

So when I hear someone say, “There is no way he could have done something like that,” in spite of the fact that such a person has been exposed by their victim or other evidence, then I know that I am looking at an enabler of evil. And we have plenty such enablers right in our churches.


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1 Comment

  1. Denise

    They are absolute master manipulators. I think it was you, Jeff, who once wrote how to tell when they’re lying – Every time they open their mouth!
    Everything you wrote here needs to be shouted from the rooftops. People, especially Christians, need to wake up to truth about evil.


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