This is a quote from the Reformation Heritage Study Bible. There are a series of good articles at the back, but the essay on “Being a Good Wife” ends with this paragraph after a discussion of the godly wife:
Some men are difficult to respect and submit to; their wives have the challenging task of rising above their behavior and taking the high road of obeying God (1 Peter 3:1-2). Such a wife is not a doormat, she may not enable or approve sin, but she exercises tough love. She will need to pray for fortitude. She hopes and prays he will be sanctified by her example (1 Cor 7:10-17). Blessings will follow the godly wife when she follows God’s plan for marriage, and those around her will be blessed as well.
Difficult to respect and submit to. A challenging task. Rise above his behavior. Obey God. Can you guess what the author of this article would say about divorcing an abuser? Stay with him. Endure the abuse. But don’t enable or approve of his sin. What? In fact, it’s her job to save him.
So her marriage is one in which she is bound to a man who is “difficult,” whose behavior is sinful, who requires her to plead with God for courage to stay married to him, and yet it is God’s plan that she remain in that bondage.
I cannot find the identity of this article’s author listed anywhere, but the General Editor of this study Bible is Joel Beeke. I appreciate much of Beeke’s writings but more than once I have seen this very kind of teaching from him when it comes to marriage and family.