A very common trait in a RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, narcissist) is their lack of love or empathy for animals. Thinking back over the many, many RASNs I have had the sad “privilege” of knowing, I can see this void as a consistent trait.
My wife and I have had pets (mostly dogs) all the years we have been married – starting out with “Buster,” a husky/keeshund mix we got for free from some genuine hippies in NW Portland years ago. Buster was with us for 14 years and is buried on his trail in Montana which he used to go get cookies from the neighbors every day. Since then we have had Brandy, Sasha, Sadie, and now Cinder and Mocha. They live with us, go in the car – all that usual stuff dogs love.
RASNs know nothing of this. I realize that not all people who choose not to have a pet are RASNs (in many cases allergies prohibit it), but what I have observed is that RASNs consistently have no love, empathy, or kindness toward animals. That makes sense because RASNS have no love, empathy, or kindness toward PEOPLE either. They are an empathy black hole, a loveless vacuum.
I am certainly not the first person to note this trait. As you read about the mentality and tactics of RASNs, you will typically find that this void of love for creatures is quite common. In many cases there is an outright cruelty to animals, especially if the pet is one that the abuser’s victim loves.
God created the animals. Why? For man’s enjoyment and companionship. Not the full companionship which can only be given by another human being, but nevertheless for man’s enjoyment and for God’s glory the animals were created. They are part of the creation which man is charged with caring for. This is why cruelty to animals is a great sin and evil. Such wickedness will never again be found in the New Heavens and Earth when Christ comes again.
Domesticated animals such as cats and dogs and others have the capacity to demonstrate emotion. I suppose even a cow can do so if, for instance, raised from calfhood by one person as a pet. Burros and donkeys and horses do. Animals have the capacity to actually love their master. It is more than just because the master feeds them – they actually long to be WITH their master. You see it in a dog for instance, when you mention key words like “go” or “walk” or “car.” They want to be with.
It is therefore an affront to animals to call a wicked person an “animal.” Because animals have more humanity in them than a RASN does.
Lele
I’m so grateful for you Jeff.
Yes it is very true in my case. When we were dating he interacted fine with my dogs even though he claimed he had allergies (I never saw any evidence of this). Once we got married he made me kick my dogs out and any of my protest was met with the allergy excuse and how thoughtless I was to make him endure that. It also turned into the mantra of how he is the head of the household and whatever he said goes. He actually said “if I tell you to chain your f’ing dogs to a tree with no shelter food or water that’s what you’re going to do without question”.
He knew I loved my dogs very much and it was a way to torture me.
Unfortunately he knew how much I loved my son and we were very close so he did his best to destroy him. Again he interacted well with him before marriage. He was in my sons life from 11-13 years old and because of the abuse (including punitive sexual abuse which I knew nothing about at the time) my son now at 22 still struggles and has overdosed on fentanyl twice. One of which I found him and had to do CPR and narcan to bring him back.
Please pray for him with me.
Jeff Crippen
Lele- I am so sorry that you and your son have had to endure this. Thank you for sharing because your story helps validate others. There are men like this who do those same things as he did to you who claim to be Christians and are regarded as such by their pastor and church. The fake disguise they wear around others (as he did before you were married) really throws a wrench into our ability to discern them. A man like this needs to be put right out of the church and reported to the police. I hope you are free of him.
Lele
The marriage lasted only 22 long months. I am free of him physically but the legacy persists in my son’s inability to move past it so far.
As for my ex narcissist. Directly after our divorce he was given his own church by someone who was planting churches and had been told of what was happening in our marriage. He never believed me. Sadly he is now a pastor in Massachusetts.
Jeff Crippen
– now a pastor in Massachusetts. I have seen this over and over again. Wicked men, found out in one church, simply move to another and are accepted and even installed as elders. Their background is never looked into. And even if they do hear reports of sin in such a person, those reports are disregarded. Why? Because for ease and maintenance of status quo, it is more comfortable and less costly to do so. Thus the sheep have a wolf for a shepherd. The blind lead the blind.