RASNs are Users

They make much of you, but for no good purpose. They want to shut you out, that you may make much of them.
(Galatians 4:17)

Revilers, abusers, sociopaths, and narcissists never give, they always take. Just as the Apostle Paul warned the Galatians, RASNs flatter, but only so that they can use others – so that YOU may make much of THEM.

The narcissist, for example, views himself/herself as the sun around whom the planets revolve – their only purpose being to exalt this being who considers himself a kind of god. They only exist for his glory. He uses them.

I am sure that most of you can give examples you have experienced in respect to this evil business of being used. Much of this usage is rather covert, but in other cases it is right out there to be seen. RASNs all believe that they are entitled, owed, and to be served.

The targets of these users can often fall prey to this nasty business without realizing they are being used. The thing can go on for years – giving, giving, giving, taking, taking, taking. You give, they take. You give, they use. I told someone recently that I should change all my “usernames” online to the name of some chief user I have known!

Normal people, particularly real Christians, are givers. Like Christ, we are enabled by the Holy Spirit in us and as the new creations that we are, to give. To serve. The greatest in God’s kingdom are those who are servants of all. Christ came and laid down His life, He gave Himself so that we might live. We as His people delight in meeting a need and helping those who need help. But if we are not wise, we in particular can become the target of the user. This is a kind of bondage and it can go on for a long time.

RASNs flatter. They do this because they know that it is a powerful technic with which to enslave. That is Paul’s point in the verse quoted above. They only want to use others for their own evil and selfish ends. And so as they weave their web to ensnare us, they throw compliments, they tell us how wonderful we are, how no one can do something as good as we can, and on and on and on. But before long, sooner than later, they will begin to take. “Oh, could you….you’re so good at this.” It is all a cruel and evil disguise to hide what is really going on. Using. Taking. Draining the bottle dry.

True, authentic, genuine human relationships are not based upon taking. They cannot exist unless both parties are ready to deny themselves and give. The user will never do this. And that is why, for example, victims of domestic abuse, find themselves empty and dried up after years of being used. Give and give and give all you can to a user – it will never be enough. It will never be appreciated. You will never be loved. The thing is a toxin and we need to cease swallowing it.