Have I then become your enemy by telling you the truth?
(Galatians 4:16)

“If you want to be respected, then stop getting angry when you are told the truth.” That is a great quote I heard recently in a video about Winston Churchill. His wife, Clementine, had passed on some constructive criticism and Winston didn’t take it well. Now, I do not believe Churchill was a narcissist, but Clementine’s words certainly apply to what I call the RASN (reviler, abuser, sociopath, or narcissist).

RASNs demand what they call “respect.” It isn’t really respect, but more akin to something like being worshipped and served. However, being the fools that they are (evil always makes a person a fool), they sabotage any respect by refusing to accept truth about themselves. RASNs refuse to self-examine. Introspection is not in their mentality. They are not to blame. And thus they rage when told the truth about themselves.

RASNs, being the shame-enslaved people that they are, could never and will never pray as David did:

Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! (Psalms 139:23-24)

None of us enjoy being shown sin within ourselves. Conviction is painful. Repentance is hard, and yet if we truly know the Lord, if we are born again, we will come to confess our sin and ask the Lord’s forgiveness because of Christ. Not so the RASN. Anyone who dares to point out sin to such a one will be met with hostility and blame.

If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. (1 John 1:8)

In the end, the RASN loses the respect he craves. He will need to move on to new pastures where his disguised self can win the adulation of others – for a time.