1Co 13:7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I suspect that most of you have had this verse quoted by people who are at work to keep you in an abusive relationship. We must love our abuser, you know. After all – love endures all things. And we must believe our abuser when he claims repentance because love believes all things. Yada, yada, yada.
Nonsense. Don’t fall for it. First of all think about the Lord Jesus. He is obviously the essence of love in a man. Now did Jesus believe all things? Did He believe the Pharisees? As He, by His Spirit, inspired the Apostles to write Scripture, did He guide them into writing that we are to literally believe all things? Of course not. Much of the New Testament consists of warnings against false doctrine and false teachers.
As always, misuse of Scripture entails cutting a verse out of its context. If you read the verse immediately preceeding, it says this:
1Co 13:6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
So “believe all things” cannot mean that we are to bear and believe all things. Love does not accept the abuser’s lies. Love stands for and loves truth. In fact, it turns out that 1 Cor 13:1-7 is a description of God’s love and God’s truth. This love bears all things the Lord brings our way because it believes all things the Lord says and it hopes in all of His promises. Promises that, for instance, He will destroy the wicked and we will never see them again. Promises that He will provide a way of escape from evil.
And the Spirit in us who plants this love in our hearts also reveals to us who does and who does not possess this love:
1Co 13:4-5 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
So don’t let anyone tell you that 1 Cor 13 requires that you remain in abuse out of “love.” That is nonsense. In fact, it is a wicked twisting of God’s Word.